This morning’s message, brought by Brother Ken, gave us some practical teaching on what makes a good marriage. It is sobering and at the same time beautiful to ponder the fact that marriage is likened to Christ and the church. In this way a godly marriage is a manifestation of the gospel.

Mothers do have the greater influence in the home. As has been said in time past, “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.” A mother’s training comes from her mother, or from any older woman as taught in Titus 2.

Stress, conflict, misunderstandings, etc. can be part of a marriage relationship. It is a good thing for us to ask what we can do to make life better for our spouse.

Three “C’s” were given as rules to a happy marriage: Commitment, Communication, and Contentment.
We have clear teaching in Mark 10 that divorce is not an option. We should be very thankful for the stand that our church and leadership have taken on this issue. Love is a commitment.

Marriage is meant to be a growing relationship. It is important to give attention and listen to each other speak. Be willing to seek counsel and have regular dates to build your relationship. Putting to practice the love and respect taught in Ephesians 5 is a key factor in a happy marriage.

Communication is an art that can be developed. While it is true that women need to talk, it is just as important that men listen and respond with gracious words. It could be helpful to ask an older brother’s advice on how to listen well. Set aside time to talk about decisions you need to make and how your children are developing. Be open with each other to discuss your finances, schedules, personal struggles, and battles.

Keep life as stress-free as possible by learning contentment. Be content with your marriage partner. Your wife is not your mom—don’t expect her to keep house and cook just like you were used to before marriage. Your husband is not your dad—accept who he is. Don’t fight his character, his lack of management, or his spirituality.

In seeking changes in each other, it is good to ask if it’s worth changing. Learn to accept each other’s weaknesses. Ask each other for help in making changes.

If you can learn to live within your means, it will go a long way in being content.